Malibu Wine Safari

Grab a couple of adventurous girlfriends, your significant other, or your family and you'll be set for your next getaway to Malibu Wine Safari.

Located at the city of Miley Cyrus' recent top hit of the summer (aka Malibu), Malibu Wine Safari offers various tours to satisfy the animal and alcohol lover within you. You can check out their website here for a more detailed explanation of each tour. Thanks to Malibu Wine Safari, Sharon and I had the opportunity to experience the 105-minute Giraffe Tour.

To start off our tour, we got to ride in a badass vehicle with over 20 seats while sipping on glasses of champagne and taking in the beautiful view of Malibu's vineyard. This truck took us everywhere we needed to go for the entire tour, and getting in/out at each stop was easy because there were no doors or roof on the vehicle to restrict our movement.

For all of my animal lovers out there, you'd be excited to know that Malibu Wine Safari allows you to feed chopped carrots and lettuce to alpacas, bison, zebras, and more. Honestly, it was so cute to see three happy alpaca heads sticking out between the wooden planks of the fence, waiting to be fed by tourists. But, we cannot forget the star of the show - Stanley The Giraffe with a whopping 23.7k followers on Instagram! Stanley was such a friendly and welcoming host, and he makes a great buddy to take a selfie with (as long as you're holding a piece of lettuce LOL)! If you come to Malibu Wine Safari, you definitely have to get a picture with this celebrity giraffe!

To end the tour, we nibbled on crackers and wine before being driven back to the parking lot. It was extremely hot when Sharon and I visited MWS, so here's a quick packing tip for anybody who wants to visit the vineyard soon - be sure to bring sunscreen, sunglasses, and a camera and dress in light fabrics. You're welcome ;)

Lastly, thank you so much Malibu Wine Safari for hosting our visit and we hope to see you soon!

Much Love,

My Thoughts On Body Positivity

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"My legs are fat".

"I hate my side burns".

"She's so ugly".

...why do we say these types of hurtful things to ourselves? Or worse, about others?

Photography by:
Jonathan Wang (@jonathanbangwang)

Outfit Details:
Dress: Shop TOBI
Necklace: Charming Charlie
Shoes: Zooshoo

Whether I'm talking amongst a circle of girlfriends or happen to overhear a nearby conversation about body shaming, this subject will almost always come up sooner or later. How does it start, you ask? One person will bring up something they don't like about themselves or another person, and then that conversation will soon spiral down into a never-ending complaint session. No solutions, only complaints. Fun stuff, am I right? (Insert sarcasm here.)

I honestly don't understand why we shame, or were taught to shame, our bodies to an extreme. If we look the way we look in real life, shouldn't we accept that fact or do something to change the scenario? Why does society (specifically, the media) not emphasize to teach the younger generation to love themselves, their bodies, and their imperfections? Shouldn't we approach life with a fun, silly, and down-to-earth spirit of embracing our double chins and jiggly thighs? Okay, I may not have made this point sound as visually appealing with that last sentence (haha), but I much rather embrace a real image or person for who they are than a fake or photoshopped individual who was "created" to look perfect. I respect and value those who fearlessly promote body positivity, or those who don't let the fear of imperfections control their life.

Let's take this hypothetical example - let's say I have an hour long conversation with friends compiling a list of reasons about why I want bigger boobs. First off, complaints will NOT change the situation or the state of my boobs, which is why I find it completely pointless to head down this pathway. Because complaining is pointless, this is why I try to stay away from body shaming or negative people who shame others, but the way I act doesn't mean others will do the same.

It's human nature to feel insecure, to feel insecure about how we speak, dress, and naturally look. And it's perfectly okay to feel that way. However, there's a huge difference between one minor comment here and there versus full-on body shaming. These days, I feel that positivity and compliments can be easily drowned out by negativity, body shaming, and insulting comments. 

If you want to turn body shaming into body positivity, you only have one of two decisions to choose from - changing your mental state to be more positive and accepting how you look or desiring to make physical changes for the better.

With my social media platforms, I aim to promote positivity in all aspects (sharing words of encouragement, spreading happiness, giving out compliments, writing tips and advice guides, etc.), and this includes addressing body positivity in itself - which is why I'm making this post.

Honestly, it's really easy to change our mindsets, our way of thinking, and our words if we hold the willpower to do so. So the next time you hear your friend or a stranger insult him/herself, please be the one to encourage him/herself to think more positively. Don't add to the mess by shaming yourself and nit-picking at a body part you're not proud of, because that definitely does not help the situation improve. Instead, bring up a physical or personality trait you really like about the person, and chances are, their spirits and day will be lifted. And most likely, they will say something really great about you as well (maybe something you didn't even see in yourself!). Now THIS is the type of positivity that we should be promoting.

So let me be honest with you guys - I'm not 100% happy with the way I look and I'm 100% confident enough to admit that. But, I'm not going to make a list of flaws that I have because that would be a complete waste of my valuable time. There's better things to do with your time than complain about yourself or others, trust me. However, I've accepted the way that I look and love myself for the fact that I can be completely okay with being imperfect. And if I were ever SO upset with who I was or look like as a person, I would make the necessary changes to change the situation. Remember, complaints get you nowhere, but making the right choices will.

And remember this - don't ever let another individual's negative opinion of you consume your life because the only thing that really matters in life is how YOU see yourself. Honestly, it's so important to love yourself all day, every day. When you love yourself, that self-confidence and positivity will be contagious and spread to others - and cheering people up is a very rewarding feeling that haters or complainers will never get to experience. With that, I hope that you can join me on this journey towards promoting body positivity, and let's make people smile together!

Much Love,

5 Tips To Stay Inspired For Content Creators

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As a hardworking content creator fearlessly pursuing your long-term goals in this competitive industry, I know that it's easy to lose inspiration or motivation in the process of chasing our dreams. Throughout my years of blogging, let me just tell you that I've personally experienced a roller coaster of ups and downs when it came to a consistent and determined work ethic. One day, I'd feel a surge of inspiration and then the next, a complete 360 where I didn't feel like doing anything. Why is this, you ask? Well, it's human nature to experience different emotions (happiness, sadness, anger, etc.) as we go through life, and the same goes with feelings of motivation. That's why I've compiled FIVE tips to help YOU stay inspired when things feel like they're crashing down. With this post, I hope that at least one of these tips helps lift you out of that uninspired rut!

Photography by:

Kevin Huang from @kevinhuangphoto

1. Get away from work. Take a break, go outdoors, book a vacation.

One of the best and worst parts about being a content creator is that the flow of content never stops. Coming from a competitive industry that is highly saturated with content creators, not only are we are expected to create content 24/7, but we frequently have to develop innovative ideas that no one has done before as well. When you work under the pressure of trying to stand out among the crowd all the while balancing your current workload, it's easy to fall victim to a lack of motivation and hopelessness.

This industry is not like your standard 9-5 - you can't just clock out when you want to because trust me, an influencer's brain doesn't work that way. When you brain is running 24/7 for weeks, months or years, it's very easy to feel burnt out and lose all motivation in your work and progress. That's why this field isn't meant for everybody. 

But let's just say that you're just going through a rough patch and need to find a source of motivation or a pick-me-up? In that case, one of the best things you can do for yourself is TAKE A BREAK. Every individual works differently, so whether that means taking a week-long hiatus from social media or booking an all-day spa appointment, do what's best for YOU. Some people feel reenergized off of one rest day, while others need a week to feel fully refreshed. I respect anybody who respects and knows how to treat their body when life gets tough. And don't forget to remember that health comes first. With better health, comes a better work ethic, better productivity, and thus, better progress to get you closer towards your goals.

2. Find role models, motivational speakers, inspirational quotes - anything to keep those creative juices flowing.

What I love most about this creative industry is the fact that we can find motivation within a few clicks of your phone or computer mouse. If you're a content creator and recently feel like it isn't fun to post on social media anymore (or worse, if it feels torturous), then YOU need to do something about your situation. Complaints and excuses won't get you anywhere, but taking action will. When I'm in a creative rut, I always re-read old posts from various lifestyle and travel bloggers that I look up to in order to reignite my creativity.

When you look up to a certain individual and find their content refreshing and heartwarming, you already know that they're inspirational to your life in some way. To each their own, but here are a few content creators that I personally look up to or check up on frequently in order to keep my creative juices flowing.

Christabel Chua by BellyWellyJelly
Lisa Linh by ByLisaLinh
Jeanne Grey by TheGreyLayers
Gary Vaynerchuk

Also, another useful tip to stay motivated is using PINTEREST. Taking the time to research and read through a list of inspirational quotes really lifts my spirits up. I've created a few Pinterest boards on motivational quotes, and I suggest that you do the same!

3. Block time out of your day/week to schedule an inspirational or motivational task in.

When you're always on the grind creating content, there has to be a point when you reach total and utter exhaustion. You don't ever want to completely burn yourself out, or else you'll end up taking a longer time to recover - which eliminates overall productivity in the end. I have a close friend who is in the creative industry and shares with me that he always stops himself from overworking himself once the clock hits 10PM. From 10PM, he strictly dedicates his free time before bedtime to LEARN so that he can become even more knowledgeable in his field. Honestly, I told him that I would do the same, but haven't done so yet - so scheduling a block of time to LEARN something new about my field is definitely something I have to incorporate into my future schedule.

When you take the time out of your day or week to learn something new, you are benefitting your quality of life. Instead of repeating the same ol' steps or tactics, you can use the tips that you've learned to create even BETTER content. That's why it's so important to take some time out of your day, whether it is 30 minutes to an hour, towards learning something new. You'll thank yourself later.

For me, a few inspirational/motivational tactics that I block time out of include, but are not limited to, listening to a motivational speaker (I highly recommend Gary Vee), reading books on entrepreneurship/monetization/productivity or skimming through Instagram/YouTube for creative and aesthetic photography or videography styles. The creativity never ends, and neither should yours.

4. Get out of your comfort zone and try new things!

This is probably easier said than done, but once you're in the mindset to change and grow, this fourth point will really resonate with you. For years, I loved dressing up in floral and lace dresses and rompers. However, because of my Asian baby face, TONS of strangers would go up to me during photoshoots and ask if I was taking my senior portraits (for HIGH SCHOOL). First and foremost, hold up - it's been TEN years since I've been out of high school. The more I went out to photoshoot, the more this subject was brought up - and the thought of being acknowledged as an adolescent instead of an adult started to chip away at my head like an annoying woodpecker.

But, instead of complaining about this situation and not doing anything about it, I eventually told myself that I WANT to be recognized as an adult by wearin more mature clothing. Yes, I will always love my rompers and dresses, but I'm proud of the fact that I finally have convinced myself to be more open-minded when it comes to fashion. Nowadays, I want to try my very best to dress more business chic and classy so that I can be treated like an adult. Remember, although you cannot change what happens around you, you hold the power to how you react to certain situations and the right decisions could move you forward in life.

5. Write down your short-term and long-term goals and check back on them every now and then. Make this plan more effective by having a friend hold you accountable!

I solemnly swear that I am a crazy planner lady. I'm also a crazy dog lady, but let's save that story for another time. One of the most effective planners that I've used to keep track of my life goals is Passion Planner! This planner literally goes above-and-beyond a normal planner's functions, as it promotes positivity, productivity, and chasing your goals within a reasonable deadline.

If you don't ever hold yourself accountable for getting a certain task done within a certain time limit, then how can you ever safely say that you've achieved your goals? Let Passion Planner be your guide towards a more organized and fulfilled life. What I love about Passion Planner is that there is an introduction that literally lures you in towards a more positive outlook on life. This introduction not only sets the mood of inspiration, but it also provides monthly "check-in" pages and "passion roadmaps" to fill out so you know exactly what you're working towards. 

If you aren't feeling the Passion Planner specifically, you can always purchase a more affordable notebook or planner and fill out the empty lines yourself. Bonus points if you jot down all of your goals and show them to your friend so that he/she can help you keep your priorities in check!

After reading this blog post, I hope that one (or more) of these tips have ignited that spark of creativity and inspiration within you! Please click the heart button at the bottom of this post if you enjoy these inspirational pieces, and let me know in the comments section below if you'd like me to write more of these pieces!

Much Love,

Pala Casino Resort & Spa

When an influencer event invites you to an amazing getaway in Temecula with other content creators to participate in slot machine tournaments, taste fine dining seafood options, and stay overnight at their beautiful resort, can life get any better than this? Oh yes it can, when you unexpectedly win $400 at the slot machines - but I'll get to that story later ;)

PC: Sharon Litz (@sharonlitz)

PC: Sharon Litz (@sharonlitz)

Just a one-hour drive away from my OC neighborhood, Pala Casino Spa & Resort is a gambler's paradise tucked away among acres of farmland and cattle. Sharon and I experienced a smooth morning drive together, checking in around 10:30AM on a Thursday morning. After dropping off our bags, we celebrated our arrival with two glasses of freshly squeezed orange juice at The Cave Lounge as we waited for other influencers to arrive to the scene. Before we knew it, the room quickly began to fill up and we were all served delicious pineapple-infused appetizers and beverages to start off the day's festivities.

Soon after, we were led by Pala staff towards the casino area for an exciting activity - SLOT MACHINE TOURNAMENT! The objective of the game included furiously tapping on a slot machine screen, looking for certain icons that popped up that carried the most points. At one point, I remember seeing "first place" pop up on my screen, but that status soon disappeared within seconds by another competitive influencer. The fight to hold first place until the timer reached 0:00 was real, but we all made sure to have fun while doing our very best. This game was jam-packed with finger tapping and craziness - you could literally see everybody's competitive edge come to life within these two minutes. After two rounds, I swear our arms were going to fall off, but I would have played 10 more rounds if we had the extra time, haha. Three winners received prizes for earning the highest scores before we moved on to the next activity.

By now, it was approximately 3:00 PM and we were divided into two groups - Group A for the Wine Cave and Group B for the Oak Room. After an hour, the two groups would swap activities. Starting off with the Oak Room, we were served a delicious course of decadently prepared seafood options and alcoholic beverages (specifically wine and champagne) from Temecula. We met the talented chef behind these creations and thanked him for such a wonderful meal before heading to the Wine Cave.

I'll be honest - I'm not a heavy or frequent drinker, so I don't have too much to say about the wine. However, I will say that the Wine Room was a hidden gem located downstairs from the concert venue and had an aesthetic, spacious interior that could host over 50 people. While the other influencers sipped on their drinks, Sharon and I headed out to create content for Instagram and the blog (aka photoshoot time!). We then headed over to the spa demo around 5PM, where we learned about hotel luxury products by Coola and Babor. 

By 7:00PM, the hotel resort was packed due to the UB40 concert that was held on their grand lawn vicinity. While a few people rocked out hard on the concert floor outdoors, Sharon and I decided to watch from the comfort of our hotel room. If you saw the hotel room for yourself, you wouldn't want to leave either ;) Our room included two queen beds and a very spacious bathroom - a very comfortable room if you ask me. It was pretty amazing that we could watch the concert from our hotel room window, and same with everybody else who stayed at Pala Casino - you can't say every hotel offers this kind of luxury. While the concert continued, Sharon and I decided to grab some Chinese food before hunting for ice cream because our stomachs are bottomless pits that crave sweets and calories.

So do you know anybody who holds an ice cream cone in one hand while clicking the "spin" button with the other? If not, at least you can say you know Sharon and Michelle do! We browsed around for a fun slot machine to play on, and Sharon selected a dragon machine while I sat down at the "China Shores" slot machine with a cute panda on it. Near the beginning of our playtime, Sharon won $12 and I started getting excited for her, as I only won six cents on my first round. Talk about making it rain! Surprisingly after three pathetic rounds, I clicked a few more buttons and I ended up winning $433 in total! This prize stunned me silly, as I did not expect to win such a grand sum of money after losing my brand new Free People top and earning six cents. It was definitely a memorable night, and Sharon and I had so much fun showing our crazy gambling sides off to the Instastory world. We ended the night with a really deep talk about various life topics, and I truly appreciate any friend who can talk with me about such intellectual topics.

The morning arrived faster than we wanted it to, but we lugged our asses to breakfast anyways because who can say no to food? Pala Casino reserved one of their private Sycamore Rooms for the influencer event, and we chowed down on savory bakery items, eggs, bacon, sausage, and french toast. May I add that they even had a DIY yogurt bar with fruits and granola?! Too cute! Shortly after, we all said our goodbyes to each other and I couldn't have experienced a better getaway with such genuine and friendly influencers.

Literally, I am writing this post as soon as I arrived home from the event because my experience at the Pala Casino Spa & Resort was that phenomenal. I wanted to thank the Pala Casino staff for going above & beyond with everything - from creating a vegetarian menu just for Sharon at the Oak Room to locating my lost Free People top by the end of the event. Not to mention, you can feel the positive vibes from each Pala Casino employee who helped us out, as they were all enthusiastic to be there. I am forever grateful to the experiences I shared at this resort, as well as the employees who made this all happen. Pala Casino Spa & Resort, I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart for such a wonderful experience.

Much Love,

Coaching: How It's Changed My Life For The Better

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Have you ever felt like you weren't happy with multiple aspects of your life?

Well...I certainly have.

Photography:
Kevin Huang (@kevinhuangphoto) from www.kevinhuangphoto.com

The Backstory:

It's been two years since I started this blogging journey and don't get me wrong - I feel as passionate towards blogging as I have when I first started. In fact, there are SO many more topics that I want to address on the blog and the journey doesn't end here! But, why did I feel so lost and empty, even while chasing my dream career? Shouldn't I be fueled by motivation and ambition on the daily by being able to do what I love for a living? You'd think so.

But on top of being a mid-20's entrepreneur, I'm just your average gal with her standard set of problems that other people may struggle with as well. Financial burdens, shaky friendships, a lack of motivation to work out or diet - all of these factors were eating away at me simultaneously and I felt that I was slowly losing myself. Losing the will to live life to the fullest, and losing the willpower to piece myself back together. When you struggle with one obstacle, it can be tough, but at least recoverable. But when you realize that you have SO much more baggage than you realize all at once, it starts to pile on...and well, weighs you down. And from the bottom, it's pretty damn hard to climb back to the top, especially when nobody can understand what you are truly feeling or going through. When you experience life at the "lowest" point, the stinging words of "just get over it" or "what's wrong with you" won't exactly help you recover.

To the outside person, you'd see me having the time of my life laughing with other bloggers at a media event, clinking glasses during brunch, taking photos for my friends, and much more. Why did I look so happy on the outside, when I was nothing close to feeling that way on the inside? I guess I never really faced or realized the seriousness of my problems...until I was alone. Thus, I convinced myself to stay out and socialize for as long as possible in hopes that my problems would evaporate into thin air. Better think twice, Michelle. When you run away from your problems, they stay at home waiting for you, like concerned parents waiting for their child to come home.

Anywho, that's the long and somewhat depressing backstory of how I've been feeling in life lately. But, I'm not here to complain about life, because that's what Twitter statuses are for (LOL). On Missmisschelle, I aim to connect with my audience by sharing personal stories and how I overcome certain obstacles in my life with a positive attitude and determined mindset. So in this blog post, I wanted to share with you guys how I started to recover from such a mentally troubling state. The solution? Coaching.

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THE SOLUTION:

I realized that the pinnacle of my problems stemmed from the fact that I blamed external factors for why my life was going downhill. I claimed to friends that I had no control over certain things that happened and that inevitability over certain actions/situations was why my life sucked. But no, the blame game does not get you anywhere, nor does it help you become a better person. By blaming others or anything but myself, I wasn't moving anywhere in life because I refused to change. I played the blame game, I lacked a course of action, and I had no motivation to get out of where I currently was - sounds like a hopeless "game over" to me.

But that where's coaching came into play. One of my best friends, Wendy, knew what I was going through and listened to my problems intently, but she couldn't quite put her finger on why I was struggling with so many life issues at once. Eventually, she started to pursue coaching as a a potential career option and asked me if I could "play" the role of one of her clients. Turns out, we both played our roles pretty well.

After our first 45-minute webcam session, Wendy successfully pinpointed all of the problems I wasn't happy with in my life and drove me to figure out solutions for the each of them. Remember that my solution in the past was to come up with an excuse? Well, typical Michelle kept coming up with her lame ol' excuses, one after the other, but Wendy refused to let this happen. As a coach should be, Wendy urged Michelle to dig deeper as to why she was creating so many excuses to cover her tracks. So goodbye excuses, you're no longer needed.

By the end of our first session, Wendy continued to ask me questions to learn how I got stuck in this position and how to get myself out of this shithole I dug for myself. Eventually, we came up with a roll-out plan for me to apply to my life. Since then, I'll admit that it hasn't been 100% smooth sailing and I do find myself coming up with excuses for why I didn't finish a certain task, but we both noticed a huge improvement in my motivation to change and improve my entire lifestyle within a week. I was now taking action on each aspect of my life that I wanted to change for the better, seeking to improve and better myself as a person. 

So here's a tip from me to you - if you are afraid to ask for help or think seeking help from others is for the weak, it is not. There's no shame in asking for help; in fact, it is a bold move that not everybody can do for themselves. Asking for help and admitting fault is one of the most courageous things you can do as a person, as a lot of people in life refuse to admit that they are wrong or that something is wrong in their life. I'm one of the few people in life who will willingly admit that I am wrong in certain situations, and I encourage more people to do act like this. To admit fault when deserved, to seek change when necessary, to desire a healthier lifestyle. If everybody were to admit they were right or perfect in this day and age, just imagine how many problems that would arise in relationships, friendships, and in life. Instead of finding excuses to dodge blame or claiming to be perfect, let's work on ourselves by analyzing what's wrong and what we can do better.

Now that it's been my third webcam session with Wendy and things have tremendously improved in my life, it's time for me to help others in need. If you feel like you're internally struggling with something and you don't feel comfortable sharing your problems with friends or family members, then seeking a counselor, therapist, or a life coach may be the route from you.

Be sure to book your first complimentary consultation with my best friend and aspiring life coach, Wendy Hsiao, and let's get you on the track to a better life! This is not a sponsored post or an obligatory post to a close friend, but just a post that I've been meaning to write for a while. Since Wendy's coaching tactics have positively impacted my life in such a short amount of time, I just knew that I had to share my backstory and recovery progress with all of you guys. Stay tuned for a blog post on the METHOD I use to keep my life organized and on track again - coming soon to Missmisschelle! ;)

Book your first appointment with Wendy Hsiao on www.wendyhcoaching.com.

Much Love,

Missmisschelle's 25th Birthday Party: Ketsourine Macarons (Part Two)

Missmisschelle's 25th Birthday Party: Ketsourine Macarons (Part Two)

Just because I visited Northern California for a good three weeks doesn't mean the party don't stop! As Part Two of my 25th birthday celebration, I hosted a second birthday party at my favorite Ketsourine Macarons with bloggers, photographers, and good company to reunite with my hometown friends for the limited amount of time that I'm staying in the Bay Area.