Coaching: How It's Changed My Life For The Better

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Have you ever felt like you weren't happy with multiple aspects of your life?

Well...I certainly have.

Photography:
Kevin Huang (@kevinhuangphoto) from www.kevinhuangphoto.com

The Backstory:

It's been two years since I started this blogging journey and don't get me wrong - I feel as passionate towards blogging as I have when I first started. In fact, there are SO many more topics that I want to address on the blog and the journey doesn't end here! But, why did I feel so lost and empty, even while chasing my dream career? Shouldn't I be fueled by motivation and ambition on the daily by being able to do what I love for a living? You'd think so.

But on top of being a mid-20's entrepreneur, I'm just your average gal with her standard set of problems that other people may struggle with as well. Financial burdens, shaky friendships, a lack of motivation to work out or diet - all of these factors were eating away at me simultaneously and I felt that I was slowly losing myself. Losing the will to live life to the fullest, and losing the willpower to piece myself back together. When you struggle with one obstacle, it can be tough, but at least recoverable. But when you realize that you have SO much more baggage than you realize all at once, it starts to pile on...and well, weighs you down. And from the bottom, it's pretty damn hard to climb back to the top, especially when nobody can understand what you are truly feeling or going through. When you experience life at the "lowest" point, the stinging words of "just get over it" or "what's wrong with you" won't exactly help you recover.

To the outside person, you'd see me having the time of my life laughing with other bloggers at a media event, clinking glasses during brunch, taking photos for my friends, and much more. Why did I look so happy on the outside, when I was nothing close to feeling that way on the inside? I guess I never really faced or realized the seriousness of my problems...until I was alone. Thus, I convinced myself to stay out and socialize for as long as possible in hopes that my problems would evaporate into thin air. Better think twice, Michelle. When you run away from your problems, they stay at home waiting for you, like concerned parents waiting for their child to come home.

Anywho, that's the long and somewhat depressing backstory of how I've been feeling in life lately. But, I'm not here to complain about life, because that's what Twitter statuses are for (LOL). On Missmisschelle, I aim to connect with my audience by sharing personal stories and how I overcome certain obstacles in my life with a positive attitude and determined mindset. So in this blog post, I wanted to share with you guys how I started to recover from such a mentally troubling state. The solution? Coaching.

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THE SOLUTION:

I realized that the pinnacle of my problems stemmed from the fact that I blamed external factors for why my life was going downhill. I claimed to friends that I had no control over certain things that happened and that inevitability over certain actions/situations was why my life sucked. But no, the blame game does not get you anywhere, nor does it help you become a better person. By blaming others or anything but myself, I wasn't moving anywhere in life because I refused to change. I played the blame game, I lacked a course of action, and I had no motivation to get out of where I currently was - sounds like a hopeless "game over" to me.

But that where's coaching came into play. One of my best friends, Wendy, knew what I was going through and listened to my problems intently, but she couldn't quite put her finger on why I was struggling with so many life issues at once. Eventually, she started to pursue coaching as a a potential career option and asked me if I could "play" the role of one of her clients. Turns out, we both played our roles pretty well.

After our first 45-minute webcam session, Wendy successfully pinpointed all of the problems I wasn't happy with in my life and drove me to figure out solutions for the each of them. Remember that my solution in the past was to come up with an excuse? Well, typical Michelle kept coming up with her lame ol' excuses, one after the other, but Wendy refused to let this happen. As a coach should be, Wendy urged Michelle to dig deeper as to why she was creating so many excuses to cover her tracks. So goodbye excuses, you're no longer needed.

By the end of our first session, Wendy continued to ask me questions to learn how I got stuck in this position and how to get myself out of this shithole I dug for myself. Eventually, we came up with a roll-out plan for me to apply to my life. Since then, I'll admit that it hasn't been 100% smooth sailing and I do find myself coming up with excuses for why I did't finish a certain task, but we both noticed a huge improvement in my motivation to change and improve my entire lifestyle within a week. I was now taking action on each aspect of my life that I wanted to change for the better, seeking to improve and better myself as a person. 

So here's a tip from me to you - if you are afraid to ask for help or think seeking help from others is for the weak, it is not. There's no shame in asking for help; in fact, it is a bold move that not everybody can do for themselves. Asking for help and admitting fault is one of the most courageous things you can do as a person, as a lot of people in life refuse to admit that they are wrong or that something is wrong in their life. I'm one of the few people in life who will willingly admit that I am wrong in certain situations, and I encourage more people to do act like this. To admit fault when deserved, to seek change when necessary, to desire a healthier lifestyle. If everybody were to admit they were right or perfect in this day and age, just imagine how many problems that would arise in relationships, friendships, and in life. Instead of finding excuses to dodge blame or claiming to be perfect, let's work on ourselves by analyzing what's wrong and what we can do better.

Now that it's been my third webcam session with Wendy and things have tremendously improved in my life, it's time for me to help others in need. If you feel like you're internally struggling with something and you don't feel comfortable sharing your problems with friends or family members, then seeking a counselor, therapist, or a life coach may be the route from you.

Be sure to book your first complimentary consultation with my best friend and aspiring life coach, Wendy Hsiao, and let's get you on the track to a better life! This is not a sponsored post or an obligatory post to a close friend, but just a post that I've been meaning to write for a while. Since Wendy's coaching tactics have positively impacted my life in such a short amount of time, I just knew that I had to share my backstory and recovery progress with all of you guys. Stay tuned for a blog post on the METHOD I use to keep my life organized and on track again - coming soon to Missmisschelle! ;)

Book your first appointment with Wendy Hsiao on www.wendyhcoaching.com.

Much Love,

Missmisschelle's 25th Birthday Party: Ketsourine Macarons (Part Two)

Missmisschelle's 25th Birthday Party: Ketsourine Macarons (Part Two)

Just because I visited Northern California for a good three weeks doesn't mean the party don't stop! As Part Two of my 25th birthday celebration, I hosted a second birthday party at my favorite Ketsourine Macarons with bloggers, photographers, and good company to reunite with my hometown friends for the limited amount of time that I'm staying in the Bay Area.

Instagram Takeover At Hotel G San Francisco

With its prominent black sign and signature brand letter, you can easily spot Hotel G from afar while driving through the jam-packed streets of Union Square. Located at the heart of Downtown San Francisco, Hotel G serves as the perfect getaway place for both travelers and foreign tourists. While exploring San Francisco for a good four days straight, Sharon and I additionally had the honor of taking over Hotel G's Instagram account (@hotelg_sf) to show our followers a good time around the city.

Photography by:
Sharon Litz (@sharonlitz) of www.sharinaone.com

Upon walking into Hotel G, there were two luggage carts conveniently located to the right of us to load our bags on from the valet parking area. After walking down the main hallway, we were greeted by the front desk representative, who was all smiles while checking us in. Then, it was up the elevator to the 10th floor, where our King Suite bedroom awaited us.

If you're a huge fan of minimalistic and spacious rooms, then Hotel G has got you covered. With modern artwork and patterned pillows placed aesthetically on a comfortable sofa, you already know their hotel rooms are photo op friendly. Also, one look at the King Suite bed is enough to take your breath away. After all, their luxurious headboard and soft mattress will truly make you feel like royalty. On the other side of the room, you can't forget your standard desk for those late night work sessions and mini fridge stocked with beverages to quench your thirst.

One of the highlights of staying at Hotel G for two nights was the convenience factor when it came to location. As soon as you walk out of the hotel doors, you can literally find yourself right across the street from Union Square. Whether you want to window shop or grab a bite to eat, all of these businesses are a quick walking distance away from Hotel G. In fact, Sharon and I dined at Cafe Bellini for two days straight because their Italian food was that memorable from the night before. If you're looking for a fancier date night option with a gorgeous outdoor patio, Le Colonial is one of my favorite Vietnamese and French cuisines just a couple of walking minutes away.

If you plan on driving your car to stay at this particular hotel, I would highly suggest going for valet parking, as the nearby parking garages are a bit of a walk from the hotel. All you have to do is call the front desk 30-45 minutes in advance and your car will be parked right in front of the vicinity. This service was very convenient, as Sharon and I wanted to save as much time as possible so that we could explore all of the iconic spots that San Francisco had to offer. Thanks Hotel G for fetching my ride within a timely manner!

While we were staying at Hotel G, two restaurants were currently being renovated so we unfortunately weren't able to dine in and review these spots. However, if you want a quick oyster and cocktail fix, you can find Benjamin Cooper on the second story of this hotel for a fun and casual bar night.

Lastly, we want to thank Hotel G for hosting our stay in San Francisco and we hope that you all enjoyed our room tour and dancing videos via Instastories!

Much Love,

Missmisschelle's 25th Birthday Party: Pengo Drink Station (Part 1)

I dare you to ask anybody who knows me on a personal level - only workaholic Michelle would combine her birthday party with a media event to make content for da gram! Just about a week ago, I hosted Part One of my 25th Birthday Party at Pengo Drink Station in Laguna Hills. At this birthday party, my aim was to promote Pengo's top secret Unicorn Drink just in time for June's OC Night Market with the help of my guests (comprised of food photographers, Yelp Elites, foodies, etc.). These drinks were ONLY to be released at OC Night Market, which means that my guests were the very first foodies to feast their eyes on this innovative drink idea. With the help of additional sponsors, the Pengo staff, and my friends, I was able to capture fun memories through the form of fun and professionally shot visuals (thanks Sharon!) and a silly vlog filmed and edited by yours truly.

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Photography:
Sharon Litz (@sharonlitz)

Outfit Details:
Romper: Francesca's
Necklace: Thought Blossoms
Rings: Rocksbox

As a frequent party planner and event hostess, I am used to running around like a headless chicken throughout the duration of event to make sure my guests are taken care of. This also means that I don't have an appetite to eat, which means more food for my guests, hah! The party table was literally a sweet tooth's heaven - just see for yourself!

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FOOD/DRINK OPTIONS:

Unicorn Drinks  - Pengo Drink Station
Paninis, Grilled Cheese Sandwiches, Strawberry Cheesecake, Dessert Canolis - Stefano's Laguna Hills
Unicorn Cake & Unicorn Bark - Creme & Sugar


Additionally, I was honored to have Shop BEXO, Sleekhair, and Eyemimo San Francisco contribute their wonderful products at my birthday party. Take a look at the list below to see what my guests took home as a parting gift!

GIFTING OPTIONS:

Jewelry (Necklaces, Chokers, Bracelets, & Anklets) - Shop BEXO
Natural Falsies - Eyemimo San Francisco

Pink Swag Bags - SleekHair

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Lastly, here is a BIRTHDAY PARTY VLOG from the event - I'd greatly appreciate it if you guys could click LIKE on the video and leave a COMMENT if you want to watch more event vlogs!

Thank you again to everybody who attended or participated in my 25th Birthday Party - it wouldn't have been the same without you! Stay tuned for Missmisschelle's 25th Birthday Party: Part 2 taking place in the Bay Area this Sunday ;)

Much Love,

25 Things I Learned At 25

25 Things I Learned At 25

The more we grow up, the more we think we got our lives together...or so we think. Even as we become adults, or are so-called "adulting", I have bumped into enough unexpected surprises, opportunities, and connections that have made me realize that there is so much more to life than we know it. Now that I've finally turned 25, I wanted to keep today's post short, simple, and straight to the point. I could totally go off tangent when discussing each of these life lessons, but I'll save you the time of day this time around ;) Today, I wanted to share with you guys 25 LIFE LESSONS that I've personally learned as a 25 year old woman.

Top Tips To Maintain Your Hair Color And Cut

Top Tips To Maintain Your Hair Color And Cut

Ladies and gentlemen who cut or color their hair on a frequent basis - this post is for you. For twenty four years of my life, I have never left a salon feeling truly happy - that is, until I discovered Orange County hairstylist Lyssa. Ever since I discovered Lyssa's true talents for hair styling and coloring, she has been the only hairstylist I have been going to for months. Thanks to Lyssa, she has provided me with a bunch of helpful tips on how to effectively maintain the color and health of your hair right after it has been colored and cut. If you have never truly loved the way your hair looks or feels right after an appointment, I suggest you read on to find out what tips have worked for me to keep my hair in its healthiest condition! That, and the fact that you should hit up Lyssa the next time you need a cut and color ;)